Ready FOR Change

Being ready FOR change is different than being ready TO change. Many of us think that change means we need to restructure who we are and how we show up in the world. Nothing could be less true!  I know that I fear change because of this reason. I’ve worked hard to...

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Being Someone Else

Ever wish you could change who you are or what you look like? When you do this you deny the beauty and uniqueness of how others see you. You feel “not enough” or “too much” or “unacceptable.” What prompts this? Usually toxic shame that says that you are defective or...

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Loving Your Stuff Too Much?

Look around your room, your office, your home. Have you accumulated more stuff than you really use or need? Do you feel disorganized when you see the bigger picture? Is your basement, attic, garage, or storage unit packed with possessions that you’ve forgotten about?...

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Your Hero Is Not Far

What is a hero?  We know when we’ve met one…we usually have a warm feeling in our hearts, a kind of emotional high that we’ve touched on a significant moment in history. Heroes inspire us to achieve, to reach our potentials. Heroes can also be rescuers, such as first...

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Stress and Trauma Recovery

Daily stress from relatively trivial factors is one thing. Stress and trauma that have their origins in childhood or adult abuse, violence, addiction, and bullying, is another. These latter experiences require a lifetime of recovery, work, counsel, and sometimes...

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The Security Myth

No matter how much money, fame, or career success we may accumulate, security rears its ugly head as a real issue for many. Lack of health care, medication, finances, even love, loom large as threats to our well being. Yet there is no such thing as enough...

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Longing to Belong

The happiest memories I have are when I felt as if I belonged to something larger than myself: family, church, cadre of friends, orchestras, choruses.  As a life coach I am privileged to help create this kind of “instant” community for an hour or so whenever I offer a...

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Neglect: The Silent Killer of the Soul

Three kinds of neglect that affect our spiritual lives and cause tremendous wounding: emotional neglect, physical neglect, and neglect in spiritual communities. Regarding emotional neglect, we are fortunate to have the work of Dr. Jonice Webb available to us in her...

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Healing Our Spiritual Pasts

Today I want to begin a conversation about past experiences that have wounded us.  Specifically, I am focusing on experiences associated with spiritual or church organizations. We usually belong to a religion or congregation for some great reasons.  We’re looking for...

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Emotional Neglect

I just finished one of the best books I’ve ever read: Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD with Christine Musello, PsyD. (2014, Morgan James Publishing, NY).  Dr. Webb has opened my eyes to a whole, new way of looking at...

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