“Ef” Words

Most of us were taught never to use vulgarity or ‘cussing’ only to discover its value later in life. There are studies that show that cussing at the right moments can relieve stress while expressing shock, exasperation, frustration, anger, or a combination. Near the...

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Reframing Failure and Success

No one likes to fail. Worse still, no one likes to feel like a failure. Why does failure feel so lousy? It’s because our dualistic culture defines it as a huge negative in contrast to success. Families, businesses, banks, law enforcement, and governments don’t help...

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The Two Sides of Perfectionists

Most people speak negatively about perfectionists. They often wrongly lump the tendency toward perfectionism in with obsessive-compulsive disorder or narcissism. And they have some major misconceptions, such as: All perfectionists are neurotic control freaks who can’t...

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Death By Comparison

Self-motivation is key to success. Yet the wrong kind and I can be very hard on myself. Maybe you too? Are you in the habit of blaming yourself whenever something doesn’t work out quite right?Do you fantasize about a perfect scenario where all the pieces of your life...

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Are You Entitled?

No one likes to think they’re entitled. It’s kind of an ugly word. It carries a lot of shame and judgment. Yet I know that I’ve been entitled for a number of reasons that are not accessible to the vast majority of human being in the world. Let’s just start with race,...

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Veterans: What’s Your Value?

Veterans and spouses, I challenge you! Can you take a few moments to read and respond to this?  I want and need you’re your insights and input to a few important questions. Over the past couple of years I’ve posted a lot to elicit responses from American veterans....

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Friendship and Frequencies

I think I’ve finally solved a mystery about friendship that I’ve wondered about most of my life: Why I have had so few real, lasting friendships. Since I was four years old, I struggled to identify and foster friendships. I usually ended up feeling left out,...

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A Gracious Life and Career

How do you know when you’re in a ‘gracious career’?  How does it feel? Is it the feeling you get when you’ve experienced totally strings-free love? Or: Is it like receiving a gift for no other reason than you happen to exist? It is our right as humans to live...

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What Is The Universe About?

I recently came across three concepts that have guided humans in their quest to understand the universe. The first I had heard about many times, especially growing up in New England: Transcendentalism. One had known something about: Pantheism. The third was new to me:...

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Career Success And The Cosmos

Believe it or not, everything, including your career and your home life, depend on the cosmos. That’s because everything and everyone is made up of combinations of 118 known atomic elements. Every atom is constructed of fixed numbers of protons with a positive...

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