Longing to Belong

The happiest memories I have are when I felt as if I belonged to something larger than myself: family, church, cadre of friends, orchestras, choruses.  As a life coach I am privileged to help create this kind of “instant” community for an hour or so whenever I offer a...

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Neglect: The Silent Killer of the Soul

Three kinds of neglect that affect our spiritual lives and cause tremendous wounding: emotional neglect, physical neglect, and neglect in spiritual communities. Regarding emotional neglect, we are fortunate to have the work of Dr. Jonice Webb available to us in her...

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Healing Our Spiritual Pasts

Today I want to begin a conversation about past experiences that have wounded us.  Specifically, I am focusing on experiences associated with spiritual or church organizations. We usually belong to a religion or congregation for some great reasons.  We’re looking for...

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Emotional Neglect

I just finished one of the best books I’ve ever read: Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD with Christine Musello, PsyD. (2014, Morgan James Publishing, NY).  Dr. Webb has opened my eyes to a whole, new way of looking at...

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Who Are Your Kindred Spirits?

I have very few friends.  And that’s the way it’s supposed to be for me.  The six or so true relationships I enjoy are not just friends; they are kindred spirits.  We give each other the emotional and spiritual support we need to stay in balance and show up in the...

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A Real Pain in the Rear

It’s next to impossible to be prepared for the unexpected.  Aside from hocking the family jewels to pay for insurance, all we can do is live right, stick with our values, and do whatever necessary to be healthy.  That is, until the unexpected happens.  I’m going to...

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Liberator or Merely Liberal?

I’ve gone back and forth labeling myself.  Ultimately labels are pretty useless. They are helpful in offering a quick snapshot of the positions we take on important issues.  So sometimes I’m conservative, sometimes liberal, usually progressive, and sometimes even...

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Are You Worth It?

Many of us spend at least half the day judging or second-guessing ourselves.  We’re simply never worthy, never enough.  We somehow think that berating ourselves by correcting our behavior is the key to happiness…or at least being perfect…and therefore...

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Sadness, Anxiety and Acceptance

Life Coaches often are thought of as having their “act together.”  Yet the most effective life coaches are those who struggle with common issues such as depression, anxiety, fear, and compulsive thoughts or behaviors. I cannot emphasize more...

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Deadly Messages and Your Powerful Life

In the film “The Sixth Sense” the child actor Cole Sear said, “I see dead people.” Even if you never saw the film you likely recall this signature line. Well, you may not see dead people, but I guarantee you do hear deadly messages…all the...

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