Toxic Family: Eight Steps To Reconciliation

We all learn that we will like only some people. The rest we will either dislike or be indifferent. Some of those we like will be friends. The others…well, we may have to discover ways to minimize contact. Family is different though. It’s often difficult or impossible...

Six Steps Away From Victimhood

Stress can be necessary or unhealthy. When we move, one skeletal muscle must stretch, the complementary muscle must contract. Thus, created physical stress moves our limbs.  Then there is unhealthy stress. It comes from experiences in real time, and more often,...

Being and Feeling Successful: Nine Action Items

Do you consider your mind as more work-oriented and your emotions/spirit as more belonging at home? Do you reserve your heavy thinking for the office and your emotions for your personal life? Why the split? Every person’s goal as a human being ought to be toward...

The Word I Hate

Since reading John Bradshaw’s books on family system dysfunction, I have flagged one word to avoid using: SHOULD. Don’t get me wrong. Should is a perfectly good part of the English language. It conveys intention toward a future action or thought, anticipating a need....

Eight Starting Points for Starting Over

Lately I’ve been thinking about people who’ve shifted gears away from their former careers. They may have been forced out, laid off, or decided to retire. Now they find themselves in the uncomfortable position of not knowing what to do next. They’re not even sure how...