Death By Comparison

Self-motivation is key to success. Yet the wrong kind and I can be very hard on myself. Maybe you too? Are you in the habit of blaming yourself whenever something doesn’t work out quite right?Do you fantasize about a perfect scenario where all the pieces of your life...

Three Questions to Ask in Transition

We humans are wired to appreciate and crave intimacy. The intimacy we experience when we transition from one job or career to another, or from one place of residence to someplace far away, or from marriage to the single life is no different. Many make the mistake in...

Being Bitten in the Ass!

Today was a quiet Sunday.  I just finished making a massive pot of lentil soup. I put it on the stove to simmer and then decided to look up a couple of high school classmates to see what happened to them. One in particular had been on my mind lately for some reason. ...

The Big Put Down

When we feel put down we feel “terminally unique”, as if we are the only person on earth who has been so shamed, so humiliated. I fully admit that some people seem capable of shrugging off this kind of experience (or perhaps they just have learned to bury...

My Divided Life…No More!

In the last three years I’ve discovered that a divided life is not worth living.  Seeing life as an either/or proposition almost ruined me.  I was mired in a conflict between my head and my heart, my logic and my feelings, my education and my instinct.  My divided...