Responsibility and Blame

Responsibility and Blame

A therapist friend mentioned to me that an awful lot of his male clients have a hard time taking responsibility for their words and actions that often lead to relationship breakdowns.  The clueless men involved just seem to walk away from situations and people who...
Responsibility and Blame

Real Relationship: Not for Wimps!

I remember a time when the word “relationship” referred to a variety of connections a person might have with people, animals, objects and even institutions.  It was a generic term.   In the seventies, however, the word took on a very limited cast.  It was used...
Responsibility and Blame

Male Spirituality IV: Proud to be Gay?

This week Boston is celebrating Gay Pride.  A friend of mine told me of an encounter he had with a Polish couple visiting Boston years ago.  They happened to be with him touring about on the weekend of Gay Pride.  As they traipsed through the streets of downtown, they...
Responsibility and Blame

A Plea to Men

What is your deepest desire?  If there were no limits at all placed on achieving what you really want in your life, what would it be?  Sensing that we do not deserve or cannot achieve our deepest desires is self-defeating.  We were not meant to dream in vain.  The...
Responsibility and Blame

Male Spirituality III: Eroticism and Sexuality

People have a variety of reactions toward the subject of sexuality.  Some leave their sexuality on a shelf and take down every once and while to use it.  Others maintain a duality regarding sexuality so that it is enjoyable only when accompanied by a dose of guilt. ...