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Many Variations

As I work with men, I am constantly honored by their trust in me, as well as by their courageous life stories.  Every one of them is like a bright facet, shining a new perspective on the vast variety of manhood. I met another courageous man this weekend.  Tim worked...
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Responsibility and Blame

A therapist friend mentioned to me that an awful lot of his male clients have a hard time taking responsibility for their words and actions that often lead to relationship breakdowns.  The clueless men involved just seem to walk away from situations and people who...
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Male Spirituality IV: Proud to be Gay?

This week Boston is celebrating Gay Pride.  A friend of mine told me of an encounter he had with a Polish couple visiting Boston years ago.  They happened to be with him touring about on the weekend of Gay Pride.  As they traipsed through the streets of downtown, they...
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A Plea to Men

What is your deepest desire?  If there were no limits at all placed on achieving what you really want in your life, what would it be?  Sensing that we do not deserve or cannot achieve our deepest desires is self-defeating.  We were not meant to dream in vain.  The...
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Mundane Creativity

Susan and I have been friends since 1996 when I first went to her studio for art lessons.  This week she’s turned 65 and is younger than ever.  She’s constantly recreating herself.  Whenever Susan gets feeling low, she either goes out for a brisk run, or, in the...