Eight Foundations for Security

The pandemic has turned our concept of security on its head. It has generated a cascading effect of fearful outcomes. These have led to an overwhelmed medical community, lockdowns, lay-offs, loss of medical coverage. business failures, kids out of school, and so...

Three Questions to Ask in Transition

We humans are wired to appreciate and crave intimacy. The intimacy we experience when we transition from one job or career to another, or from one place of residence to someplace far away, or from marriage to the single life is no different. Many make the mistake in...

Toxic Family: Eight Steps To Reconciliation

We all learn that we will like only some people. The rest we will either dislike or be indifferent. Some of those we like will be friends. The others…well, we may have to discover ways to minimize contact. Family is different though. It’s often difficult or impossible...

Six Steps Away From Victimhood

Stress can be necessary or unhealthy. When we move, one skeletal muscle must stretch, the complementary muscle must contract. Thus, created physical stress moves our limbs.  Then there is unhealthy stress. It comes from experiences in real time, and more often,...

Being and Feeling Successful: Nine Action Items

Do you consider your mind as more work-oriented and your emotions/spirit as more belonging at home? Do you reserve your heavy thinking for the office and your emotions for your personal life? Why the split? Every person’s goal as a human being ought to be toward...

The Word I Hate

Since reading John Bradshaw’s books on family system dysfunction, I have flagged one word to avoid using: SHOULD. Don’t get me wrong. Should is a perfectly good part of the English language. It conveys intention toward a future action or thought, anticipating a need....