Insecure: With or Without a Job

You’ve probably read recent reports about how 26% of people are considering changing their jobs, post-Pandemic.  Whether or not this is accurate, leaving a job or career at any time is one of the riskiest moves we can make. When I shifted out of Catholic parish...

“Ef” Words

Most of us were taught never to use vulgarity or ‘cussing’ only to discover its value later in life. There are studies that show that cussing at the right moments can relieve stress while expressing shock, exasperation, frustration, anger, or a combination. Near the...

Reframing Failure and Success

No one likes to fail. Worse still, no one likes to feel like a failure. Why does failure feel so lousy? It’s because our dualistic culture defines it as a huge negative in contrast to success. Families, businesses, banks, law enforcement, and governments don’t help...

The Two Sides of Perfectionists

Most people speak negatively about perfectionists. They often wrongly lump the tendency toward perfectionism in with obsessive-compulsive disorder or narcissism. And they have some major misconceptions, such as: All perfectionists are neurotic control freaks who can’t...

Death By Comparison

Self-motivation is key to success. Yet the wrong kind and I can be very hard on myself. Maybe you too? Are you in the habit of blaming yourself whenever something doesn’t work out quite right?Do you fantasize about a perfect scenario where all the pieces of your life...

Are You Entitled?

No one likes to think they’re entitled. It’s kind of an ugly word. It carries a lot of shame and judgment. Yet I know that I’ve been entitled for a number of reasons that are not accessible to the vast majority of human being in the world. Let’s just start with race,...