Giving Power to Perps

Perpetrators of inappropriate or illegal behavior get away with it because too many victims don’t come forward and make a credible and loud fuss.  And when they do, the rest of us often tend to dismiss their allegations and defend the perp, who often holds a position...

Our Stories Can Kill Us

The great Maya Angelou wrote in I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings: “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” I totally agree with her.  And she wasn’t referring to the kinds of stories about our past that seek to perpetuate our victim status!...

Defending the Castle

Our lives are like castles that we like to protect.  Two tools I’ve found useful are vigilance and judgment.  Vigilance is devoted attentiveness or watchfulness.  Judgment in this case is the formation of an opinion after consideration or deliberation and the capacity...

My Divided Life…No More!

In the last three years I’ve discovered that a divided life is not worth living.  Seeing life as an either/or proposition almost ruined me.  I was mired in a conflict between my head and my heart, my logic and my feelings, my education and my instinct.  My divided...