Are You Worth It?

Many of us spend at least half the day judging or second-guessing ourselves.  We’re simply never worthy, never enough.  We somehow think that berating ourselves by correcting our behavior is the key to happiness…or at least being perfect…and therefore...

Friendship and Value

Today I was thinking, or rather obsessing, about a friend of many years who has been impossible to contact.  I consider her a close friend, a confidant on whom I depended during the most difficult times of my recent life.  She doesn’t answer phones, emails or voice...

Heroic Shower Thoughts

My mind is the clearest in the morning, particularly when I’m showering.  Images, concrete and imagined, trigger a lot of thoughts.  It feels like layers of protective barriers are washed away and I get to peek into what is making me tick.  Or maybe I just have too...

Value and Performance

What have you done for me lately?  How often we imagine our boss saying that to us?  What if we heard it from our significant other, our kids or our friends? Being judged by our performance of tasks is not always unusual or unfair.  This is the norm in a world where...