Being Miserable: Saboteurs in the Flesh

Years ago Mark, a brilliant professional man, came to speak with me as his parish priest.  He said that his alcoholic sister was constantly sucking the energy out of his life.  Whenever he was around her, he found himself leaving depressed, angry and frustrated.  He...
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Work and Vocation

I love to watch TV chefs.  One personality that brightens the day is Michael Symon, one of the hosts of The Chew.  He was recently on vacation in Puglia, Italy 15 other friends and family.  They rented a farm house and spent a couple of weeks relaxing and eating. ...

Be Miserable: Forget the Serenity Prayer

The serenity prayer, made popular by Alcoholics Anonymous and other twelve step recovery groups goes like this: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.  It’s a simple...
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Powerful Questions

Ever get stuck talking with your kids, your spouse or colleagues?  You know they’re struggling with something and all you get are dead-end or yes/no answers with no follow-up.  I recall many conversations as a child with my parents that ended at a blank wall of...
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Real Relationship: Not for Wimps!

I remember a time when the word “relationship” referred to a variety of connections a person might have with people, animals, objects and even institutions.  It was a generic term.   In the seventies, however, the word took on a very limited cast.  It was used...