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Shift Happens

My friend Peter recently underwent a serious operation that has improved dramatically his ability to function under the strain of a chronic illness.  He took a leave of absence from the job he’s had for almost a decade while he recuperated.  How he’s returned to work...
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Endings and Beginnings

Jobs.  Careers.  Relationships.  Marriages.  Living arrangements.  Addictions.  Hobbies.  Any and all of these key elements of our lives had a beginning and may have to come to an end at some point.  None of them are coterminous with our lives.  In other words, we did...
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What Is Intimacy?

Intimacy.  Say the word and watch the walls go up and people scatter!  Some crave intimacy like chocolate.  Others avoid it like the Black Death.  By definition intimacy is personal and subjective.  For example, that you bought a dog is not intimate information; why...
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Why Sex is So Important to Men

My last post dealt with Sex: Use and Misuse.  Today I want you to reflect on intimacy and sex and why sex is so important for many men.  It’s because a lot of men are uncomfortable with intentional emotional intimacy and find sex to be a shortcut for them. A funny...
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Still Looking?

Are you looking for a new job this summer?  Changing careers?  Laid off and looking for work of any kind to help you with your basic necessities?  Clearly from the news reports you are not alone.  This recession lingers as we are all caught in a world-wide seismic...