Feeling Lonely

Do you feel lonely all the time? No? Now turn off the phone.  Shut down the computer.  Live off-line for two hours when you get home from work.  Then tell me you don’t feel lonely. Many of us have repressed our feelings of loneliness by what I call “junk-food...

Letting Go to Find Intimacy

I’ve been hungry for intimacy most of my life.  It’s more than a physical, sexual, or emotional connection.  I’ve been seeking the kind of a deep communion with myself and the universe, a profound experience of the present moment when time stands still and I’m fully...

Elusive Intimacy

One trait of Highly Sensitive Persons that often goes unnoticed is that we tend to begin relationships where most people end up.  In other words the “ladder” most people climb from mindless chit-chat to intimacy is often upside-down for HSP’s.  We often and easily...

Heroic Shower Thoughts

My mind is the clearest in the morning, particularly when I’m showering.  Images, concrete and imagined, trigger a lot of thoughts.  It feels like layers of protective barriers are washed away and I get to peek into what is making me tick.  Or maybe I just have too...

Intimacy and Verbal Communication

Intimacy changes lives.  Communication is the foundation of all intimacy.  It makes sense, then, to understand with what kinds of communication we are most comfortable. We tend to communicate in two ways: verbal and non-verbal.  Verbal communication uses words, either...